How to Stop Fighting Step #6 Deal Constructively with Irreconcilable Differences

Option B. Collect More Facts.

This sometimes works too, if the argument is facts-based.

"Facts-based" conflicts are ones that can be resolved if:

• The facts are determinable, AND
• The facts are determined.

Sometimes the conflict is based on values (ideas about right and wrong, good or bad), and not facts.

Values tend to be very stable -- people don't change them very often.

To learn more, read an article on Dealing with Values-Based Conflicts.

Even when a conflict is based on facts, the facts may not be "knowable." For example,

• It may be impossible to figure out who did what a long time ago.
• There may be scientific facts that cannot be measured.

So trying to collect more facts may not work.